I believe this modern world needs rising Self-Leaders pursuing their downfocus, controlling all areas of their life; becoming increasingly powerful, effective, successful, and happy.
I have determined the factors as it makes sense to me for that often ill-defined abstraction ‘Happiness’.
Have you ever thought about what happiness actually comprises and means?
Happiness is the purpose of life?
According to Aristotle, Neo-Tech, and myself.
Neo-Tech gives the following equation for happiness:
Value Creation
(the source of happiness)
+
Value Reflection
(the experience of happiness)
=
Happiness
We have learned how to focus on value creation in the Organized Living World programs and now let’s look at the big pay-off of experiencing Happiness.
Value Reflection represents the means by which we have that experience.
Value Reflection means simply reflecting on values; reflecting on what is good, beneficial, helpful.
Party time or quiet time to self for emotionally experiencing your productivity, recharging your batteries, enjoying yourself socially, or whatever you enjoy ‘just for you’ that brings you the experience of happiness.
“My current understanding and research leads me to four factors Value Reflection”
In a daily dance of ups and downs Happiness comprises Equanimity, Wonder, Exhilaration, and Love.
- Equanimity means steadiness, calmness, and composure: the peace and tranquillity factor.
- Wonder means the child-like curiosity of new discovery and fresh perspectives.
- Exhilaration means the excitement, anticipation, and energy available from the adventures and pursuits of living well.
- Love means feeling good will towards things
I believe it is the interaction and experience of those 4 factors that create the dynamic experience that we call Happiness.
As we pursue the development and completion and creation of our projects, sometimes we will feel good will towards them and people we are involved with.
Sometimes our projects will fill us with wonder , perhaps as we discover new information or ideas.
Sometimes we will feel a great inner peace as we see new perspectives, or achieve new levels of success in resolution of structural tensions we have been creating.
Sometimes we will feel sheer exhilaration as we feel competence and power and control.
And we must not forget to experience our earned happiness, to take time to reflect on our values, that we have acquired, that we pursue, and that we create.
To appreciate and be grateful to the values that are given us by others. To be mindful of these 4 factors of happiness and inject them into our conscious awareness at various times to heighten and enliven our experience.
Happiness came from the satisfaction of 4 criteria:
- Equanimity, peace, tranquility (endorphines?)
- Love, good will, positive regard (endorphines?)
- Exhilaration, excitment, enthusiasm, (adrenaline?)
- Wonder, curiosity, discovery (adrenaline?)
Thus:
Lifestyle design focused on maximising those 4 criteria…
List things that heighten or diminish your experience of each criteria according to the major lifestyle categories:
- people
- health
- finances
- creativity / hobbies
- environment (home/travel/etc)
- stuff / gadgets
Then we create a lifestyle satisfaction matrix to manage all of these factors.
Some of the boxes may seem difficult to fill in. That’s ok. It’s just a model, and all models are fictions. But it’s a useful tool. For example. How can we fill in the Health / Love box.
- What about health increases your experience of love? Well, actually that’s quite simple. When I feel healthier and when I am healthier, fitter, having more energy, I can be a better romantic lover, I have a greater emotional capacity to experience and share goodwill with people in my life.
- What about… Finances, decreases my… Wonder. Well, when I have to budget for things in a scarily unstable economy then I have to make choices which limit my opportunity for adventure, I can’t satisfy my curiosity as much as I would like to as I have less money to spend.
There, not so difficult.
Next, consider the main things that generally give you bad emotional experiences. Be sure to include THOSE things in the matrix. And couple it with things that would actually increase your positive experience of each corresponding box.
If negative emotions eat away at your happiness often, this exercise is vitally important.
Value Reflection Exercises
I recommend giving the following a try, which is recommended by both Brian Tracy and Jim Rohn, two giants of modern day personal growth and business training. (I admit I have not yet found the psycho-emotional freedom to fully do it myself yet.)
Weekly Value Reflection Day
Take a day off from your value creative projects for one day every week. Change your state of focus to things of reflection. Spending time with family, friends, and/or in the worlds created by books of literature and philosophy, or other interests that you are not actively pursuing focused creative projects for.
Monthly Value Reflection Weekend
Take an entire weekend off every month. Perhaps travel from your normal home, take a trip somewhere. Do something out away from your tantalizing projects. Feel your freedom. Enjoy whatever lifestyle you have so far achieved. Do something more fun and rigorous for your health than your normal exercise routine. Fly to another State if your in the US , or another European country if you’re in Europe . Have a picnic, watch the clouds. Do other kinds of mind exercises that you don’t normally do, like memory improvement exercises, or do some art, write.
Yearly Value Reflection Month
Take an entire month off every year. I actually sort of did this once. I took a massive amount of time out of my core creative projects between mid December until about Mid January one year.
I spent the time on relationships, reading the left overs of a few novels I had started but not yet finished, and lots of festive partying with friends etc. And it was one of the most ‘productive’ beneficial things I have done for myself, as it freed up my personality massively.
I learned to relax and enjoy socialising, talking, laughing, dancing, lazing around, and I have enjoyed the benefits of that in all areas of my life. For example I am a much better communicator and public speaker because of the personality shake up I had in that month.
Philip Day of Credence Publications, a brilliant British speaker and author on Health and Politics, says that 4 weeks of rest allows the chemistry and thus the habitual patterns of the brain to disperse, thus allowing us to come back to our work neurologically renewed.
Times of value reflection can be very value creative too.
The point of it all?
And to be more philosophical, what is the point of working on our projects, developing iron grip control of our responsibilities, tasks, and projects, if not for the emotional benefits of self-satisfaction, and all of those 4 factors of happiness.
It is those happiness factors that drive us to do any and every thing.
Happiness is the purpose of our life.
And now you can measure your happiness quotient with the following integrations.
Happiness = Value Creation + Value Reflection
Where Value Creation involves identifying, gathering and manifesting your intent with the purity, clarity and efficiency.
And where Value Reflection includes the four factors of Equanimity, Exhilaration, Wonder, and Love derived from pursuit of your value creation.
Like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon
You hold now in your mind and heart many of the components for success, as I see it.
My intent is that you fulfil your own intent using the Success-Matrix systems.
Imagine yourself walking out of a University building for the last time, carrying under your arm a doctorate of credibility, efficiency, power, understanding.
You hold that now, absorbed within you, and you carry it everywhere you go.
With the wonder that provides, where do you want to go?
As you draw a deep physical and mental breath you can look forwards in knowing things will be much improved compared to the past because of your confidence from the Success-Matrix / Organized Living systems.
Really, in that tranquility, where do you want to go? You can go anywhere, reach any achievement, create any lifestyle.
I wish you all the very best, and we shall hopefully stay in touch for the long journey into the rising Super-society.
I trust you will fall in love with your life over and over again as your happiness mounts to unbelievable heights with exhilaration, wonder, and peace.
To what you will do, have, and become.
With exhilaration, wonder, equanimity, and love,
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